Isn’t is amazing how someone that you thought you would spend the rest of your life with can turn into the one person in the world that you don’t think you can even stand to be in the same room with?
Someone who when they finally move out of your life, you feel like a burden has been lifted, and you feel like you have been put through the ringer. Someone who, after they leave, you realize just how bad it was.
I have to say that I have a knack for setting couples up. I have several marriages to my credit and other relationships that are to this day still going strong. I have this natural gift to be able to tell that people would be good together.
Many of my friends are amazed at how good I am at the “set up thing.” I can meet someone and just know that they would be perfect for someone else I know. It makes me very happy to be able to do this for my friends and many have prospered from my gift.
But over the past several years I have wondered … how come I can’t do this for myself? I have this natural gift for others, but totally suck at relationships of my own.
For many years, I was single because I chose to be. I had offers of marriage over the past decade but really felt that I wasn’t ready, or that there was just something about the person that would not have worked out.
One relationship came down to the fact that I had children and he didn’t. Don’t get me wrong, he loved my kids, but he just didn’t want to be a parental figure to my offspring. Obviously, I found this out AFTER many years of dating him and falling madly in love with him. He just always said that he loved my kids to death. I guess I should have explored this topic more.
To this day, I don’t think I will ever love like that again. It was intense and the most amazing experience of my life. But after the marriage proposal and refusal, the relationship fell apart and that was the end of that. It took me a few years to even regroup from that one.
I really didn’t think that marriage was in the cards for me. I had a certain person in my life that took care of a need for a partner when I was feeling lonely and I really thought that was enough. I have always had a ton of friends and lots of activities that kept me busy, so I was never lonely. Then I met him.
